In writing about my passion and dedication to MindShift, I wanted to share something personal – the most important lesson I have learnt in life is that it’s not external events that have the most profound effect on us, but how we view our own life and life’s events. Ultimately, it’s what inner belief we have in ourselves that guides our journey.
We all know our lives are full of challenges and triumphs, of ups and downs. In today’s world there are many stressors that can cause us to doubt ourselves. And, as doubt creeps into our minds, “I can’t do that” or “I will never overcome this” become mantras that become harder and harder to dismiss. How often do you think, “if only I believed in myself”?
Any negative life event can cause us to doubt ourselves. We all have times when we believe things do not go as we think they should. The world can feel a lonely place when we’re trying to find the right resources to help us at these times. Everything can seem daunting and even confusing. Often, we place too much credibility on the negativity we have around us, and that can stop us asking for help.
But in the end, it’s not how we view the events, but how we feel about ourselves that has the most profound effect on our sense of self.
As Viktor Frankl (1905 – 1997), a world-renowned psychiatrist and Holocaust-survivor famously said, “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing; the last of the human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”
In life we are all constantly faced with challenges and changes, but as we slowly begin to believe in ourselves, we will discover that although we cannot change our past experiences, we can change the way we think about them. As a result, we can change not only how we think about ourselves, but also find a way to identify a better future. Ultimately, this is what matters the most.